GeTTiNg ReAdY fOr lOvE .... The primary issue for people who have difficulty forming or maintaining an intimate relationship is not the inability to find someone to love but their own ambivalence about loving. They may say they want to be involved,but a part of them ranges all the way from somewhat reluctant to outright terrified,and it is this part of their psyche that somehow prevents them from connecting.Ultimately,ambivalence cannot be wished away.The part of you that has DOUBTS and FEARS,that does not see YOURSELF possessing the inner resources to be SUCCESSFUL in an intimate relationship,cannot be made to disappear by convincing YOURSELF that it doesn't EXIST.These DOUBTS and FEARS can only be overcome through action,through practice,by allowing YOURSELF to go forward with LOVE in spite of your RESERVATIONS,HESITATIONS,FRUSTRATIONS,DIFFICULTIES,IRRITATIONS,AND APPREHENSIONS.The courage to act,to take risks,to be vulnerable does not come from making a clear path in life and then walking down the middle of it.Its comes from taking action in spite of youre FEARS.Going ahead with LOVE does not mean PRETENDING that YOU could be involved with every person you meet.Nor does it mean holding on to a relationship that doesn't work for you ,in which there isn't enough compatibility to enable you to see YOURSELF maturing together.It does mean that you look to CONNECT,that looking for any reason not to.It means ACCEPTING another person's foibles because you have a REALISTIC UNDERSTANDING of your OWN,and not allowing an unrealistic sence of perfectionism to stop you from proceeding .People are either ready for LOVE or they are NOT.Although your readiness level may be higher or lower,once you start to FALL on the low side it's very difficult to create a loving relationship,because your ambivalence is preventing you from seeing yourself with ANYBODY.If you're looking to find a reason not to pursue a potential relationship with someone,you'll find it.Even couples who have been together happily for years can regale you with tales of the times their spouses drove them CRAZY.That's what a good RELATIONSHIP is a challenge an OPPORTUNITY to GROW ,to explore your DIFFERENCES,to see yourself anew because the changing nature of the entire universe is represented in this perfect stranger you have CHOSEN to go through life with and in this third entity the two of you have created together called your RELATIONSHIP.It's a living ,changing,dynamic,mysterious thing,and people who have gone on to BUILD a SUCCESSFUL one,even after a whirlwind romance in which they FOUND themselves madly in LOVE,will tell you that what COUNTS is not the SEXUAL PASSION,the KNOCKOUT good looks ,the second home in the country,or the kid's private school. NO,what COUNTS are qualities more amorphous and sublime ,the QUALITY of RESPECT for yourself and for your partner and the ability to LISTEN,to allow your MATE to EXPRESS himself or herself FULLY and to encourage your mate to do so FREELY.What COUNTS is LOVE, NOT merery passion, NOT merely romance,and NOT the smug satisfaction of how good looking or successful your partner is,but the SENCE OF REACHING OUT,OF SUPPORT,KINDNESS ,CONSIDERATION,GENEROSITY,AND REGARD.Those who LOOK to their partners to SOLVE ALL their problems, to make everything ALL right for THEM, to SAVE their LIVES in SOME WAY,will be devastated with DISAPPOINTMENT when time WEARS AWAY the romance and the reality of DAY TO DAY life with another person takes over.Those who UNDERSTAND the difference BETWEEN LOVE and ROMANCE do WELL in RELATIONSHIP,because TOGETHER they can BUILD a LIFE based in " TRUTH " and AUTHENTICITY.
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